The many temptations of having a 'housebroken' husband or husband to be are weighty but then they do not outweigh the pitfalls therein as these disadvantages hold too much water to be ignored. A 'housebroken' husband in this case meaning a man who has been well trained by his mother and has taken to heart this training. A man who cooks,cleans,washes,tidies and does all forms of house chores and does them well not leaving out taking care of babies of course. The term 'housebroken' could be seen as weird in reference to a human as it is used only in reference to pets especially dogs who are well trained enough to be allowed in the house and sometimes live within the home but,I would borrow it for the purpose of this write up.
A man is the head of the home,seeing to the needs of the family financially,physically and morally but most men understand the physical aspects as being seen and very loudly heard as well as being in control ALL the time and avoiding every chore as much as possible but then most men not all men. A man who has been 'housebroken' sees no problem in actually cooking once in a while,washing the plates,doing the laundry and keeping the baby entertained while the mother is busy,in fact some of these men actually cook better than women. They are a dream for ladies and for those who marry them,a dream come true but most usually find out sooner or later that this dream could quickly turn into a nightmare,so to speak.
How? Most of these men find it after the just wedded romantic glow wears off probably after 6-7 months easy to notice and pick out mistakes. A man who does domestic chores and does them well would be able to easily pick out slight and otherwise invisible mistakes. His wife doesn't mop the floor,he notices,he might not say it but if the wife is well attuned to his moods and reactions,she knows and will tend to feel bad about it. He eats a plate of rice and stew with a slightly salty taste,he immediately picks it out and in some cases,like my father,lectures on how rice should be properly prepared,taught to him by his mum, which woman would like to be compared to her husband's mother?
He notices all these little incontestability and takes it upon himself to correct or sometimes lend a hand in doing them himself and of course most women would feel put out when this happens. Little misunderstandings could crop up between them and this could lead to bigger misunderstandings and if not properly handled could lead to other adverse situations.
The advantages of this kind of husband are of course also much as you have someone to help when its needed but then is it not better to do it yourself or better still get a maid to help.
All of this of course is still debatable as others would have different opinions based on a larger percentage of first hand experience of the behaviors of such men,but then my observations are based on limited research on the first hand experiences of some wives and girlfriends.
by Shade Kuteyi
A man is the head of the home,seeing to the needs of the family financially,physically and morally but most men understand the physical aspects as being seen and very loudly heard as well as being in control ALL the time and avoiding every chore as much as possible but then most men not all men. A man who has been 'housebroken' sees no problem in actually cooking once in a while,washing the plates,doing the laundry and keeping the baby entertained while the mother is busy,in fact some of these men actually cook better than women. They are a dream for ladies and for those who marry them,a dream come true but most usually find out sooner or later that this dream could quickly turn into a nightmare,so to speak.
How? Most of these men find it after the just wedded romantic glow wears off probably after 6-7 months easy to notice and pick out mistakes. A man who does domestic chores and does them well would be able to easily pick out slight and otherwise invisible mistakes. His wife doesn't mop the floor,he notices,he might not say it but if the wife is well attuned to his moods and reactions,she knows and will tend to feel bad about it. He eats a plate of rice and stew with a slightly salty taste,he immediately picks it out and in some cases,like my father,lectures on how rice should be properly prepared,taught to him by his mum, which woman would like to be compared to her husband's mother?
He notices all these little incontestability and takes it upon himself to correct or sometimes lend a hand in doing them himself and of course most women would feel put out when this happens. Little misunderstandings could crop up between them and this could lead to bigger misunderstandings and if not properly handled could lead to other adverse situations.
The advantages of this kind of husband are of course also much as you have someone to help when its needed but then is it not better to do it yourself or better still get a maid to help.
All of this of course is still debatable as others would have different opinions based on a larger percentage of first hand experience of the behaviors of such men,but then my observations are based on limited research on the first hand experiences of some wives and girlfriends.
by Shade Kuteyi
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